Women over 50 rock

As a woman grows older, it’s easy for her to feel unappreciated, patronized, stereotyped and long past her prime.

After all our culture bombards us with daily messages that we’ve become flabby, wrinkly, and generally unattractive. And just forget about being sexy—those days are long gone!

So it was a great pleasure to stumble across this post (which I’ve shortened a bit). It was written by Frank Kaiser for Suddenly Senior.

In Praise of Older Women

As I grow in age, I value mature ladies most of all. Here are just a few of the reasons senior men sing the praises of older women:

* A older woman will never ask out of the blue, “What are you thinking?” An older woman doesn’t care what you think.

* An older woman has been around long enough to know who she is, what she wants, and from whom. By the age of 50, few women are wishy-washy. About anything. Thank God!

Portrait* And yes, once you get past a wrinkle or two, an older woman is far sexier than her younger counterpart! Her libido’s stronger. Her fear of pregnancy’s gone. Her appreciation of experienced lovemaking is honed and reciprocal.

* Older women are forthright and honest. They’ll tell you right off if you are a jerk, if you are acting like one. A young woman will say nothing, fearing that you might think worse of her. An older woman doesn’t give a damn.

* Older women are sublime. They seldom contemplate have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive dinner. Of course, if you deserve it, they won’t hesitate to shoot you if they think they can get away with it.

* Most older women cook well. They care about cleanliness. They’re generous with praise, often undeserved.

* Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to an older woman. Like your mother, they always know.

* Yes, we geezers praise older women for a multitude of reasons. These are but a few.

Unfortunately, it’s not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed, babe of 75 there is a bald, paunchy relic with his yellow pants belted at his armpits making a fool of himself with some 22-year old waitress.

The End

Frank Kaiser is basically saying that older women don’t act badly in some of the ways that younger women may.  Women over 50 don’t tend to be drama queens or clinging vines. They don’t play mind games.

What do you think? As women grow older, do they change for the better in many ways? Are they more confident, more considerate of others, more comfortable with who they are? Do men find older women attractive? I know what I think. I’d love to hear your opinion. 

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  • Madeleine Kolb 01/24/2011, 8:24 pm

    Lauren,

    I feel much the same and think it has a lot to do with accepting myself as I am. I’m not fighting aging every inch of the way or trying to recapture my youth. I’m not “getting work done”, as the saying goes. I’m happy with the way I am–white hair and all.

    Your comment about not competing with young beautiful woman reminds me how years ago I realized that when I went out with my blonde then-teenage daughter, all the men looked at her and didn’t seem to notice me at all. That is life, and it’s fine.

  • Lauren 01/24/2011, 5:26 pm

    Dear Madeleine,

    I’ve found as I’ve grown older that I do feel even more comfortable in my own skin.

    And I know I still have that earthy sensuality. I don’t worry about having a man because I know I still can.

    That said, occasionally I say hi to a young men (as I do everyone) and they fail to respond. I find that rather odd and I can feel a slight bruising to my ego as I think don’t flatter yourself young man… ;-)

    I love my women friends and I’m not in competition with young beautiful women. I had that day and now I have this day. It’s all good, as they say!

    Thought provoking stuff – thanks!

    Warm regards,
    Lauren

  • Madeleine Kolb 12/01/2010, 4:02 pm

    I agree, although it’s almost impossible not to generalize about differences, such as gender or age or even professions (think lawyer jokes). Such generalizations are more often negative than positive, and even the positive ones tend to stere0type groups.

    I think Frank Kaiser’s piece appealed to me because it’s funny and charming and I’ve had it with the anti-aging/ pro-plastic-surgery propaganda I see everywhere.

  • Adena Atkins 12/01/2010, 2:24 pm

    Hi Madeleine,

    I really enjoyed the humor and the positive take on aging. However if I must be serious about it, I’d rather not objectify and generalize women at all. I did like the article though! Thanks for sharing :)

  • Madeleine Kolb 11/28/2010, 8:52 pm

    I’m mixed on it too. I think some women do become more confident, considerate, and comfortable with who they are as they age. Others certainly seem to focus on “anti-aging” or resign themselves to a long, bleak decline. That’s such a shame.

    So I appreciate Frank Kaiser’s humor and his view of many women (if not all) as becoming more attractive, confident, and authentic as they age.

  • Lynne Spreen 11/28/2010, 4:41 pm

    I’m mixed on this. I think for every woman who is more considerate of others, there’s a woman who states, “Nope. Not gonna put up with it anymore” before she really understands the situation. And for every woman who’s more comfortable with who she is, there’s another who’s struggling to counter the fact of mortality whether it’s having work done (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/02/20/jane-fondas-plastic-surge_n_469938.html) or buying a motorcycle (a friend of mine). Yes, I know. Women should be able to do any of these things at any age, etc. etc. But to answer your question, it’s impossible to stereotype, as flattering as is Frank Kaiser’s paen to us.