Career Advice from Mom, Seriously

by Madeleine Kolb on March 15, 2010

From time to time, I’ve chatted with my daughter about work and career. I’ve given her advice and she, rather than quickly changing the subject, has actually listened and said things like “Good idea, Mom.”

But I feel you wondering, ‘Career advice from Mom? What kind of career are we talking about? Cooking advice, maybe, but career advice? OK, just stick with me here! I have decades of experience in the public sector (in government) and the private sector (in an engineering consulting company). Along the way I’ve learned some invaluable lessons which I want to share.

1.  Strong Communication Skills will Make You Stand out at Work

Take engineers, for example. They all have the basics—an engineering degree, engineering skills, and usually a fair amount of solid engineering experience. But that’s not enough! Most engineers need to write reports and all sorts of other documents. They need to make presentations, in some cases before a large international audience of experts. And many of them are not good writers or good presenters, because they get no training or, what’s worse, inadequate training. I’m using them as examples, because in my career I’ve mostly worked with engineers. But I think that this is good advice for any one.

Examples from the Real World of Work

#1.  I’ve reviewed so many draft documents which were unclear, rambling, unorganized, repetitive, or lacking vital information. I can’t pick just one or two. The fascinating part, though, is that–when I went to talk to the engineer who drafted the document, he or she would be articulate, thoughtful, organized, clear, and concise. He obviously understood the subject matter and could explain it clearly to someone who was not an engineer, but when he sat down to write, something got lost.

#2.  I had a job that required off-site training, focused mainly on making oral presentations. As is too often the case in the public sector, it was of the one-size-fits-all variety. By the time I took the training, I’d had about 3 years of Toastmasters and was a pretty fair speaker. One of my classmates, however, was an engineer who was obviously quite nervous during his presentation. When asked afterward by our instructor how nervous he was on a scale of 1 to 10, (ten being practically hysterical) he said “at least an eleven.” The sad thing is that this man was competent, motivated, and personable. He didn’t get the help he needed to become a more confident public speaker; all he got was a check by his name showing that he’s been trained in public speaking.

My Advice

If you are a good writer and a good public speaker, you will really stand out. Your job may not provide good training, so you need to be proactive.

  •  To become a good (or a better) public speaker, join Toastmasters. You’ll learn a lot, have a lot of fun, and meet many wonderful and supportive people. To find a club near you, do a search by country, state, and city at www.toastmasters.org
  • The path to becoming a good or better writer is less well defined. I think that a person learns to be a better writer the same way she learns anything. That is, by finding a mentor and then going through successive cycles of get instruction-try it-get feedback-try it again based on the feedback-get more feedback. Finding a mentor is probably the hardest part, so try this baby-step: Ask a good writer at work to review a draft for you (just one) and give you some feedback. Who can say “no” to that?

2.  Becoming a Life-long Learner can Pay Big Dividends

Things change, and one of the things that’s very likely to change is that you find yourself managing a team to get a project done. And then another.

Examples from the Real World of Work

#1.  I heard a terrific presentation once, called The Accidental Project Manager. After some time on the job, the presenter (let’s call him Arnold) was asked to manage a project and then another and another. He learned from his experience by observing what seemed to work and what didn’t work so well.

The technical term for this approach is “trial-and-error.” A little is OK, but there comes a time to learn from the accumulated experience of others. You don’t need to actually make every possible mistake; you can save a lot of time by just reading about them.

So Arnold applied to a Certificate Program in Project Management at the University of Washington. Such programs generally last for an academic year (three quarters at the UW) with evening classes several nights a week and, of course, papers and assignments along the way. This is a significant commitment of time on top of a day-job, a family, and your other commitments. It may also be a significant investment of money, although some employers reimburse the tuition.

#2.  I have a certificate in Technical Writing and Editing from the same university. I applied for the certificate program right at the height of the dotcom frenzy in Seattle when the newspapers had page after page of job listings for technical writers. I hoped to get a job paying an obscene amount of money. As it turned out, though, the dotcom boom abruptly turned into a dotcom bust.

Ultimately, however, I did get a job as a technical writer. And even though I’d had lots of prior experience writing technical documents and reports, I’m convinced that my certificate is what got me the job. Sometimes people need to see a piece of paper that says you can do something that you’ve been doing (and doing well) for a long time.

My Advice

Certificate programs and other such training can be a great help whether you’re looking for a job or you have a job and your duties are changing or you’d like to change careers. Investing time and money in your career makes good sense. 

3.  If you’re going to be a Team Player, be sure you’re on the right team

Here’s where it gets more controversial. No one is likely to object strongly to my first two pieces of advice. They are really win-win suggestions: you gain stronger job skills and your employer gains a more skilled employee.

But these days being seen as Not a Team Player puts your job, perhaps your entire career, in jeopardy. When a business (public or private) is operating legally, ethically, and morally, being a team player is easy, natural, something you barely need to think about.

But what if the business is taking shortcuts or ignoring safety requirements or doing things which put its customers, its own employees, perhaps the whole economy at risk? What if the business is pressuring its employees to put aside their principles, their core beliefs, for financial gain. What if they are laying off employees who object, who aren’t team players?

Think Washington Mutual Bank (WaMu as called it in Seattle). For a long time, it was just another bank. Then it grew bigger and bigger. Its CEO started pushing lots and lots of risky sub-prime mortgages, ignoring the protests of the bank’s risk-management group and some of its other employees. WaMu made a ton of money while it lasted, but it didn’t last. And in October, 2008, Washington Mutual failed–the largest bank failure in U.S. history. And all the Team Players lost their jobs and health insurance and, in some cases, their life savings. I suspect that some also lost their homes. All they’re left with is resumes showing their many years of experience at WaMu.

I’ll close with an eloquent warning on this subject called “Advice to Rocket Scientists: How to be Successful and Happy in a Career Where Science and Politics Often Clash.” (By J. Longuski, American Institute of Aeronautics and Astronautics, 2003). It’s directed to engineers but has meaning for all of us:

You can not fool Mother Nature. You may receive orders from the top of your company to do otherwise. A great deal of money may be involved. The President may be giving an important speech. But you know better than to confuse political reality with physical reality.

Some day you will be tested. It may be on a minor matter or it may be of great significance. This is when you will need all the courage you can muster. This is when you and others will learn about your character.

You will not be alone. You will have Galileo and Newton and Euler and Lagrange on your side. You will have your fellow engineers behind you.

Do not be afraid to make the right decision and to stand by it.

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Biblio Philes:Change or Die by Alan Deutschman

by Madeleine Kolb on March 8, 2010

Change or Die is a thought-provoking book on a question of huge  importance. It is well researched and well written. The author Alan Deutschman makes excellent use of case studies and of his personal experience in permanent weight loss. Based on his observations and analysis, he proposes an approach to change when it really matters.

Genesis of the Book

Inspiration for this book came from a conference which the author attended in 2004. Its purpose, he says, was “nothing less than proposing solutions to the biggest problems in the world.” First on the agenda was the crisis in health care, and Alan sat back, expecting to hear about breathtaking advances in science and technology. That did not happen. What he heard instead stunned him. 

One doctor gave a high-level view of the health care crisis, saying that “A relatively small percentage of the population consumes the vast majority of the health care budget for diseases that are very well known and are by and large behavioral.”  

Next the dean of the medical school at Johns Hopkins University described heart patients whose arteries are so clogged that any kind of exertion is terribly painful.  Any exertion, even having sex. Surgeons can treat these patients by putting in stents to prop open blocked arteries (that’s called angioplasty) or bypassing the clogged arteries altogether, using veins taken from the patient’s leg. 

These procedures, however, are very traumatic, enormously expensive, and worst of all, only temporary fixes. So doctors tell their patients: If you want to stop the course of your heart disease before it kills you, then you have to stop smoking, drinking too much, and eating too much.  You have to start exercising and reduce your stress. Essentially, the doctors say “Change or die!” 

And here’s the part that really got Alan Deutschman’s attention.  The heart patients don’t change, even when their very lives depend on it.  As a man whose work involves writing about change and innovation, he just couldn’t accept that.  And he began to research change in heart patients and several other groups.

Three Basic Questions About Change:

1. How do doctors and others, such as family members) try to get heart patients to change? 

Typically, they use what the author calls the 3 F’s: they state facts, they instill fear (specifically, the fear of death), and they try force (i.e., nagging).

2.  Why don’t the 3 F’s work? 

Based on his research, Alan Deutschman suggests that they don’t work because they’re not compatible with the way our minds work.  He illustrates this with several key psychological concepts, such as the following: 

  • Psych Concept 1. We are all guided by conceptual frameworks (or belief systems) about all kinds of matters—political matters, spiritual matters, financial matters.  Therefore, simply providing facts doesn’t sway how we think and feel.  
  • Psych Concept 2.  When a situation seems intolerable and our conscious minds feel overwhelmed by anxiety and a sense of powerlessness—our unconscious minds come to the rescue by activating coping strategies.  One of the most common of these is denial, that is, denying that a problem exists. 

3. What does work to get heart patients to change? 

Alan Deutschman describes a very successful program developed by Dr. Dean Ornish.  It uses an unconventional combination of a very low-fat diet, meditation, yoga and other exercise, and extensive support for the patients. 

A  three-year long study of the program included 333 patients whose insurance programs were willing to pay for them to have surgery—either a coronary bypass or an angioplasty.  The experimental group of 194 volunteered to try Dr. Ornish’s regime, while the control group of 139 underwent heart surgery, as needed.  

In Year 1, for the first 3 months the team (consisting of a cardiologist, psychologist, nurse, personal trainer, dietician, teacher of yoga and meditation, and a chef) met with the experimental group 3 times a week for 4 hours each time. 

For the rest of Year 1, the team and patients met together only once a week for 4 hours.

For years 2 and 3, the patients were back home on their own

The study was a spectacular success.  In the experimental group, 77% of the patients had changed so completely that they avoided the need for heart surgery.  The cost for this group was only $7,000 per patient. In the control group, bypass surgeries cost an average of $46,000 apiece and angioplasties cost $31,000.  

The bottom line was that the Ornish program saved $30,000 per patient. 

Three Keys to Change

Based on these results and others discussed in his book, Alan Deutschman proposed three R’s of change:

Relate

Heart patients who go through the program form new, emotional relationships with one another and with a team of professionals who fervently believe that the patients can change. 

Repeat

The team helps heart patients learn, practice, and master new habits and skills—pertaining to diet, exercise, yoga, meditation, and social connectedness. 

Reframe

From the beginning Dr. Ornish catalyzes the process of re-framing their situation for heart patients.  Instead of summoning up “the fear of death,” he speaks of “the joy of living.” 

The three R’s  help heart patients learn new ways of thinking.  They take responsibility for their own health.  They use their new habits to get better and stay better instead of relying on doctors to fix them.  They re-frame how they think about their health and their lives.

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Age Myth 5: Bad Health is Caused by Bad Genes

by Madeleine Kolb March 3, 2010

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Leaving Seattle, Heading East

by Madeleine Kolb February 9, 2010

My last post was A New Year, A New Beginning was about moving from Seattle to the Pax River area in Maryland for my BF’s new job. The tone was breezy, upbeat, confident. Along with the new year would be exciting and energizing changes, and I was ready.
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The Right Stuff Award: Daniel J. Evans

by Madeleine Kolb December 28, 2009

People with The Right Stuff take on a challenge and triumph over obstacles. Or they suddenly, unexpectedly find themselves in a difficult situation and rise to the occasion quietly and competently. They demonstrate what a single person can accomplish if she or he has The Right Stuff.
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by Madeleine Kolb December 21, 2009

Several weeks ago, Senator Harry Reid proposed a tax on elective cosmetic surgery as part of health care reform in the U.S. Among the vociferous objections were those of the American Academy of Cosmetic Surgery.
No surprise there. Doing face lifts, nose jobs, and other bodily enhancement is how cosmetic surgeons make a living. And quite [...]

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A New Year, A New Beginning

by Madeleine Kolb December 15, 2009

It’s hard to believe that a new year is about to start. It’s nearly January, named for Janus–the god who looks back at the past and ahead to the future at the same time. Janus, the god of beginnings and endings.
And for me, the new year truly is a time for beginnings and endings. My [...]

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Who Says Old People Don’t Use Computers?

by Madeleine Kolb November 29, 2009

Last month’s AARP Bulletin had an ad for a computer “Designed For YOU, Not Your Grandchildren.” It’s been “created with seniors in mind,” so there are “No confusing icons, tool bars, cascading windows, or computer jargon.”
My initial reaction (the expurgated version) is “Give me a break!” After a minute or two of reflection, it occurred [...]

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Why You Should Network with Your Neighbors

by Madeleine Kolb November 19, 2009

The other day I invited a former colleague to connect with me on LinkedIn. She responded with an update and ended with “Let’s keep in touch.” I enjoy re-connecting with friends and colleagues from the past—people I remember from jobs in another time and place. 
And yet, until recently, I didn’t connect very much with my [...]

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The Right Stuff Awards: Annie Glenn

by Madeleine Kolb November 6, 2009

The Right Stuff is a term popularized by author Tom Wolf in his rollicking, uproarious, roller-coaster-ride of a book by the same name:  a book about America’s seven original astronauts. They were men who had what it took to climb into a massive rocket loaded with explosive fuel and blast off into space. They had [...]

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